Understanding Your Context
Hi friend, how have you been? Last week, I talked to a friend, and she asked, "Ladyane, how do I even identify if a change is needed? I told her: "Curiosity."
It all starts with curiosity. Try to understand your context. Accept what’s coming up for you. Embrace it. Be gentle with yourself. Recognize the ups and downs. Your context is all about you and less about those around you. It’s about understanding where YOU are, where YOU want to be, and what’s holding you back. In my upcoming book, The Waves We Ride, I share real-life examples of how I exercised the powerful muscle of curiosity about myself—how I developed an inner voice that ultimately made me realize a change in context had been long overdue.
A curious mindset enables you to create a meaningful and fulfilling context. Begin with reflection. Pause, breathe, and let yourself simply “be.” Be curious about yourself. Ask, “What’s really going on here? What's coming up for me? How do I feel? How do I wish I would feel? There’s no need for fancy tools —just a willingness to listen to your inner voice. You can do it while you wait for your morning coffee, drive your kids to school, commute to work, or walk your dog.
Listening to your inner voice is a secret power-up for personal growth and meaningful change. It’s an act of self-care because it eventually opens doors you didn’t even know existed.
Questioning yourself with a gentle inner voice helps you see when it’s time to break free from a context that may no longer work for you. As you develop this superpower, you realize that your context does not need to be rigid and static. Instead, it can be something flexible—something that you can change based on what is important to you at that moment.
Some of us may want to stick to the context we were born into or the one we are used to, believing that’s our “safe zone.” Everything seems fine, and nothing needs to change. Steadiness in context is good—as long as it continues to fulfill you. If it doesn’t, it’s time for a change. If you feel like something isn’t right or find yourself wishing things were different, it’s time to get curious and ask some questions—ones that might reveal a new context you can actively pursue, one that may allow you to live your best life.
Recognizing when your context isn’t working for you is not an easy process —it’s about your decisions, behavior patterns, and the person you’ve been. It’s almost like admitting you’ve been wearing the wrong size shoes for a while. It feels uncomfortable, but it will hurt if you don’t switch to the right pair. This is ultimately about you. So, you are the one in charge. You initiate the change, and you benefit from it.
So, here’s a new mantra I would like to share with you —Print it, post it on your vision board, share it on social media, and chant it while sipping your morning coffee:
Recreating my context and repurposing my old one is the beginning of my personal growth.
Friend, Let's continue growing together! Let's create our new contexts together. I invite you to share with me any changes you’ve been longing for in your context—simply reply to this newsletter. I’m here for you, and I can’t wait to hear all about your personal growth and the new contexts you’re aiming for.
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With love,
Ladyane